Why we must be emotionally agile
Without healthy emotional control we won’t accomplish what we want to do. We often fail to truly appreciate the impact that our emotions have on ourselves and others. How can we achieve a healthy balance? How can we practice what psychologies call emotional regulation? Why does it even matter? Can’t we just let our emotions fly?
These are some of the concerns that Moriah and Aaron will cover in this podcast.
NOTE: Neither Aaron nor Moriah are professional psychologists.
4 areas where emotional control can impact life
- Decision making
- Relationship success
- Day to day interactions
- Self care – physical and mental health
From the real experts in psychology:
Emotional Regulation is “the ability to respond to the ongoing demands of experience with the range of emotions in a manner that is socially tolerable and sufficiently flexible to permit spontaneous reactions as well as the ability to delay spontaneous reactions as needed” (Cole, P. M., Michel, M. K., & Teti, L. O. (1994). The development of emotion regulation and dysregulation: A clinical perspective.)
Notice the important balance between socially tolerable and sufficiently flexible. The flexibility to which this quote refers is very much in keeping with agility. Nothing is going to work right if we can’t interact well with others. It will hinder our ability to succeed.
Crystal Raypole lays out a variety of ways to achieve healthy emotional balance in her article https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-control-your-emotions
A few practical suggestions from Raypole include:
- Learn to identify what emotions you are experiencing.
- Learn to regulate, not repress
- Know when to express yourself and with whom
- Give yourself space as needed
If you or someone you know is struggling with emotions or general mental health please reach out to someone.
Your personal well-being is more important than anything else. While we’re not trained to provide that support, we would be happy to connect you with the right people.
If things feel completely overwhelming please call – 800-273-8255
Sincerely, Moriah and Aaron
Conversations about continuously improving your life!
On today’s episode Moriah and Aaron consider the importance of habits in an agile life. Charles Duhigg wrote a book called The Power of Habit where he helps his readers better understand how habits are formed and how they can impact our lives in all the best ways.
How do we create habits in an agile manner? We do so iteratively, over a period of time, getting fast feedback to know how it’s going, and various other intersections between the ideas of agile and habits.
Often times we think of breaking bad habits, but those need to be replaced with the good patterns of behavior. How do we finally get what we want to do engrained? How does biology impact this and how does relate to learned patterns of behavior?
Links to resources mentioned in the podcast.
